Let’s try a mental exercise I use with clients. Pick out a change in your life that you’d like to make. Everything is on the table as long as you’re serious about working toward this change.
Got a change in mind? Good. Let’s start.
Clear your mind for a few seconds. Visualize what your life will be like after you’ve made the change(s). See the picture as clearly as you possibly can.
What’s showing up in your mind’s eye? What details are you seeing? Take a moment to jot down a description of the mental view you have.
What will it be like when you get there? What do you know you’ll accomplish on the way? Try to think about the destination is as much detail as possible. Don’t be afraid to sit with the picture so that the nuances become clear.
Now imagine putting a beautiful frame around the core of your vision. It looks good inside of there, doesn’t it? Try to picture that image on the wall of your office or your favorite room in your home. How does it look there? What emotions are coming up for you?
Sometimes I ask my clients to pick up an actual frame, so the tactile sensations make the image more real. Brain engagement doubles with input from the skin and muscular system, so your vision takes on a new depth. The frame becomes a multiplier for the reality of what you’re seeing.
Picturing a frame in your mental picture focuses your attention on your essential accomplishments. A new boundary exists, separating what is central and what is extraneous. Masterful coaches challenge clients to work toward what is critical. This clear line of demarcation divides what will get your attention from what won’t.
As you get closer to your goal, the details in the frame become clearer. The amount of detail coming to life inside your frame is a pretty good indicator of how much progress you’re making. The first coaching hack is “Figure out where you are. Figure out where you want to be. Shorten the distance.” You might think of this hack as putting a frame around your future.
Coaching draws out a clear vision and gives you some easy strategies for focusing on action. An excellent coaching question would be “What step(s) could you take to get closer to your destination?” Best of all, asking compelling questions with one eye toward what’s in your frame, guarantees that you’re drawing the client out and empowering them to make the best plan possible!
So what’s in your frame?
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